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Liking Someone That is Already Taken

Liking Someone That is Already Taken

Have you ever liked someone that is already taken.?  You dream guy or girl already has a boyfriend or girlfriend and their is nothing you can do about it. 

Coming from someone that has been in the same situation more then once, I can definitely say that it is not a great feeling.  Especially when you know that you’re the perfect person for your crush, but yet they don’t see it.  Though as much as you may like or even love this person, you may have to come to the harsh reality that it’s time to move on. 

For most people, moving on is harder said then done especially if you are friends with this person. The thing about being friends with a crush is that you have to ask yourself “What is your true motive”?.  Do you genuinely want to stay or be friends with this person?. Or is it only a cover-up so if they do break up with their bf/gf, you will be there waiting for them with open arms so you can make your move. 

The thing about liking someone that is already is taken is that you are always going to have this thought in the back of your mind” How can I make them breakup or how can i steal them away from their bf/gf.”  Yet as brilliant as this plan may sound in your head, you still must remain realistic about the situation. 

First put yourself in their gf/bf shoe’s. How would you like it if some other guy or girl came out of nowhere and was trying to take your bf/gf from you.  I’m pretty sure you wouldn’t like it, so why do it to someone else. Because as we all know karma can be hell. 

Secondly even if they do breakup, whose to say that you guys are going to end up together. You guys may end up staying friends and that could be the end of the story.  Another thing is if they are flirting with you or trying to get you while they are committed to someone else, then that is a major red flag. Because if they are willing to cheat on their bf/gf with you, then who’s to say that they wouldn’t do the same to you. As the saying goes “Once a cheater, always a cheater.” 

Yet third but last, you have to ask yourself “Are you willing to change the dynamics of your friendship just for the sake of your own feelings or emotions?”  Transitioning from a friendship to a relationship can go either two ways.  One way is you guys could have the greatest relationship ever and live happily ever after. Or you guys could have a  terrible breakup and never speak to each other again. So not only is the relationship over, but you may also lose a good  friend  in the process too. 

Though when it all boils down to it, you must decide if you are willing to stick around for the good and the bad.   Whether it works out in your favor or not, the only thing you can do is just be there for them as a friend. Because you never know, your dream guy or girl could be just around the corner waiting for you to say “Hi”.  

 

 

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Jo
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Sometimes just sitting and waiting for the right moment to come is the hardest thing to do. But nothing worth having comes easy ?

tameekaking
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Reblogged this on Be Lifted and commented:
Awesome!

G.U.M | Growing Up Millennial
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Reblogged this on GUM | Growing Up Millennial.

Daniel Ndukwu
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Interesting read

yemisi femi-pius
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Interesting post

Mike Hobbs
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Thoughtfully written. This is a great question to ask: “Do you genuinely want to stay or be friends with this person?”

Jelena Ostrovska
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Great post Brooke! Always put yourself into that other person’s shoes – would you like them to steal your b/f or g/f.. Thank you for sharing this!

Lisa McAlister
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Reading this, makes me so grateful to my husband and that I don’t need to make those choices anymore and get hurt at the same time. Thank you for sharing

spreadincrazysmiles
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I was in that same predicament with my now husband. He kept getting cheated on, and/or dumped by girls who didn’t appreciate the wonderful piece of imperfectly perfect art that he is as a human being!

What an awesome post, I’m glad I took the time to read it!

Nix
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So true. I’m best friends with my (then) crush and his gf hates me so I never hang out with him outside of college or when he’s with his gf

The Cookie Cutter Slayer
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I love this post!!!! I can’t wait to be married already, so I don’t have to worry about this shiggity lol.

https://www.cookiecutterslayer.wordpress.com

preciouswalker
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As the golden rule says, ‘do not do to others what you don’t want others to do unto you.’
I also have a guy friend, we are both single, though. I tried to tell my friends about my feelings and planned to confess. The thing is they all(Take note: All) said the same thing. “Don’t”
I understand why they said that so I am well aware now. The good thing is, my feelings are all gone now.

mhembroff
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I have never been in that position before. I was married for over thirty years and then found out he was a cheater. Needless to say I divorced him and am enjoying the single life. It is nice not to answer to anyone else and do as I please. Hopefully you find your intended partner in life without breaking someone up.
I am a granny and senior citizen and live in a scenic small town. I devote my time to writing and who knows maybe there is a story there.

thetellerstales
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loved it! Nobody likes to talk about these things, but thanks for laying it out on the table.

mhembroff
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There is always hope that one could find that special love in their lives. While you are looking just relax and enjoy yourself. I have a ten year old grandson and three supportive children. My furry companions a dog and cat provide a lot of companionship. Life takes a lot of twists and turns along the way and sometimes it is better to simply go with the flow. You never know that friend might discover on their own that the person they are with isn’t for him or her.

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